1122– 235PM
You aren't the kind of guy who asks for help when he needs it the most.
You know it; everyone knows it.
You're in your own words a "true friend" because you rise to action when a call of duty is sounded.
You make yourself available, you offer your help, you don't stop until the job is done.
That's the kind of person you are, and you have to trust that they know it.
However, they have something you don't: the ability to ask for help when they need it.
How can you fault them for not coming to your side when you don't even let it be known that you need them there?
You cannot be angry at anyone in this situation, not even at yourself, as much as you are looking for someone to blame, a scapegoat to target.
It's not your fault you find it difficult to speak your wants and needs from other people because it has been what you were taught.
The only thing left in this situation is re-learning that it's okay to ask for help when you need it.
By accepting the fact that you cannot be in control of everything, you will make it easier to be able to express your needs.
Just trust that they'll be there to help you fill them.
- - -
A quote comes to mind that sums all that up perfectly.
Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show
If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me
-- Bill Withers / Lean on Me
Amen to that. Thank you, Glee.
just for memory's sake: #3.
1001 – 508PM
Get over yourself.
This is not about you. This has nothing to do with you.
Your role here is strictly to be his support, not to be noticed or have everyone bask in your glory.
Let him have his turn; lord only knows he deserves it.
And most importantly he deserves to have you push your own ego aside and just be the best friend he needs right now.
